What do I do? She’s Jealous Of My Success

Is your friend jealous of your success? If you’re not sure, check out this article: She’s My Friend But I...

Why I Write Bitch in the City

Hi, my name’s Jacqui Alder, and I’m the creator of Bitch In The City. At the time of writing this...

Fraying Edges

Last Time … Amelia’s meeting with Zoe didn’t go well. Zoe was unimpressed when Amelia told her she suspected...

She's My Friend But I Think She's Jealous of My Success

You thought she was your friend. You didn’t have to explain yourself to her because she ‘got’ you. You...

Self-Confidence: Does Yours Go Missing In Action?

Have you had an experience where your self-confidence suddenly deserted you? What happened? How did you feel afterwards? In...
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Damaging Gossip: What’s The Antidote?

Has someone been spreading harmful stories about you?

Have you accidentally said something that has fed the rumour mill?

Have you listened to either of the above?

If you’re the target of Malicious or Careless Gossip it’s really stressful. Among other things, it can damage your career and your self-esteem.

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Gossip: Have You Crossed The Line?

Have you ever participated in gossip?

How did you feel when you thought about the answer to that question? Guilty? Ashamed?

When we think of gossip it’s usually the malicious type that comes to mind, but gossip isn’t always malicious, it can also be a force for good. According to a number of studies, gossip can have positive effects.  On the flip side, gossip can be damaging, both to the subject of the gossip and the gossiper.

What’s the difference? How do you know if you’re crossing the line?

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Amelia's Story, Amelia's Story Chapter 1

Who’s The Boss?

Last Time …

Amelia doesn’t know it but big changes are afoot. Her boss, Zoe, has been given a promotion, and Zoe’s boss, Declan, has suggested to her that Amelia and Christina are the top contenders to replace her.

Zoe is struggling to decide between them. She’s recently received complaints about Amelia from Christina and another colleague, Chantal. Uncertain whether these complaints are valid, or are simply jealousy, she’s contemplating appointing someone from outside the department.

What will Zoe decide?

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Change Is In The Air

Last Time …

Thank God things with Christina are back to normal. Though I’m not sure about the rest of the team, Chantal’s been acting strange towards me lately.

Right now that’s the least of my worries. Work’s been full on busy, and Zoe’s been riding us pretty hard. Declan’s been having lots of meetings with all the ‘Heads Of’. Now Zoe’s called a morning tea meeting – but I can’t go.

Can’t wait to hear the news from Chrissy when she gets back. The uncertainty’s getting to me because Richard and me need both our salaries to make the mortgage payments. I hope its good news.

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Troubled Waters

Last Time …

Christina and me went to Choochoo’s after work to celebrate getting the job done for Zoe. It was a big night, just like old times. Good old Richard picked us up afterwards, even though it was a Monday night.

Christina didn’t say what the issue was, but it was so nice to get things back to normal that I didn’t bother asking. I suppose all friendships have glitches from time to time. I’m relieved that we’re over it, and that it’s all water under the bridge now.

Though I do still wonder what Christina’s issue was.

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What The?

Last Time …

Things between Christina and me went from bad to worse.

I don’t know what I did but she was really at me and did it in front of the others. Then when Zoe called our Monday meeting forward by a couple of hours Christina didn’t tell me. I felt set-up. I had to rush in at the last minute with no preparation.

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The Sisterhood Rules Revealed

If you’ve been following Amelia’s story you’ll know she’s having trouble with her BFF at work. Amelia’s worried that she must’ve done something wrong to cause the rift, but her friend, Christina, isn’t saying what the issue is.

This is tricky territory for Amelia or any woman. She could find herself ‘out’ of her immediate female network, vulnerable to sabotage, or perhaps worst of all, have damaging ‘secrets’ revealed. It’s stressful stuff and potentially career limiting.

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From Bad to Worse

Last Time …

The tone of Christina’s voice was hateful. I thought I was going to vomit right there and then! I’ve never heard her talk about anyone like that – not even when she’d told me about the bitch that she’d worked with in her last job. Why would she do this to me? What’s going on?

Now, I’m sitting in the café staring at my coffee cup, trying to get myself together. I don’t know what to do. I don’t even want to go back up there.

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