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What do I do? She’s Jealous Of My Success

Is your friend jealous of your success?

If you’re not sure, check out this article: She’s My Friend But I Think She’s Jealous Of My Success. You’ll find some tips in it that’ll help you.

If she’s jealous, and you haven’t been able to resolve it with her, then you’re probably feeling hurt and stressed. That’s okay; it’s natural to feel that way. How deeply the situation is affecting you depends on the nature of your friendship: the closer and deeper the friendship is, the worse it feels.

If you work with her there’s an extra layer of stress because if things get out of hand it can damage your career and hers, too.

But what can you do?

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She’s My Friend But I Think She’s Jealous of My Success

You thought she was your friend. You didn’t have to explain yourself to her because she ‘got’ you. You were ‘there’ for her when she needed you, and she’s been ‘there’ for you: you shared your troubles and cheered each other on.

Now, however, after you’ve finally had the breakthrough you’ve been working towards, your friendship seems to have changed. You thought she’d be happy for you, but you sense she isn’t. While it’s hard to explain how you know this, you’ve begun to notice changes in her – the little things she does or doesn’t do.

What happened? Why has she backed away?

Surely she can’t be jealous … can she?

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Self-Confidence: Does Yours Go Missing In Action?

Have you had an experience where your self-confidence suddenly deserted you?

What happened? How did you feel afterwards?

In response to a prior blog post, I’ve had several requests to write a more general article about self-confidence, so here it is. It’s for anyone who’s experienced a sudden loss of confidence, regardless of the cause.

I hope it helps you. If you know someone else it would help, please share it with them.

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Are Her Acid Drops Eating Your Confidence?

Do you walk away from seemingly innocent encounters with a female colleague feeling unexpectedly deflated?

Has your level of self-doubt increased since experiencing this?

Then you could be experiencing ‘Acid Drops‘.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, an Acid Drop is a boiled sweet that originated in the UK, and has a very sour aftertaste. Bitch In The City Acid Drops are the verbal equivalent of the same thing. Whilst similar to other BITC behaviours, such as the Hug Slap and the Cold Shoulder, the hallmark of the Acid Drop is subtlety. You may not realise what happened at the time, or even afterwards.

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Is She Giving You The Hug Slap?

Are you feeling confused about where you stand with a female colleague?

Then you could be experiencing ‘The Hug Slap’.

‘The Hug Slap’ is all about inconsistency: sometimes you’re ‘in’ (Hug) and sometimes you’re ‘out’ (Slap) but you’ve no clue why or when it may change. This behaviour is a close cousin of ‘The Cold Shoulder’  discussed in one of my earlier posts. The difference is that ‘The Cold Shoulder’ is consistent: it’s a Slap, so you know you’re ‘out’ and BITC intends to keep you there.

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Damaging Gossip: What’s The Antidote?

Has someone been spreading harmful stories about you?

Have you accidentally said something that has fed the rumour mill?

Have you listened to either of the above?

If you’re the target of Malicious or Careless Gossip it’s really stressful. Among other things, it can damage your career and your self-esteem.

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Bitchiness – The Sisterhood Rules

As I was writing the first post in this series BITCHINESS – A SUBTLE ART I felt a knot in my stomach. It was a twinge of internal conflict.

I don’t know about you, but my close female friends are some of the most important people in my life. With them I can share my secrets; my doubts; talk about my man; laugh at silly things and diss about my annoyances. They will encourage me, boost me and let me know when I’m kidding myself.

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