What do I do? She’s Jealous Of My Success

Is your friend jealous of your success? If you’re not sure, check out this article: She’s My Friend But I...

Why I Write Bitch in the City

Hi, my name’s Jacqui Alder, and I’m the creator of Bitch In The City. At the time of writing this...

Fraying Edges

Last Time … Amelia’s meeting with Zoe didn’t go well. Zoe was unimpressed when Amelia told her she suspected...

She's My Friend But I Think She's Jealous of My Success

You thought she was your friend. You didn’t have to explain yourself to her because she ‘got’ you. You...

Self-Confidence: Does Yours Go Missing In Action?

Have you had an experience where your self-confidence suddenly deserted you? What happened? How did you feel afterwards? In...
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What do I do? She’s Jealous Of My Success
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She's My Friend But I Think She's Jealous of My Success
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Jacqui's Juice

Why I Write Bitch in the CityFeatured

Hi, my name’s Jacqui Alder, and I’m the creator of Bitch In The City.

At the time of writing this post, the blog has been going for 18 months, so I thought it was about time we had a chat and I introduce myself properly. I also wanted to share with you the story behind why I write Bitch In The City, and show you how to use the site, as I’ve made some changes.

If you’ve read the About Jacqui page, you already know some ‘official’ things about me. What else would you like to know?

I currently live in Perth, Western Australia, which is known for hot sunny weather. Not today though; the rain is playing drums on the roof of my house, and the sun is cloaked in a wintry grey woollen blanket. In Perth, we have great beaches so, when the weather permits, I spend as much time as I can in the water or with sand between my toes.

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What do I do? She’s Jealous Of My Success

Is your friend jealous of your success?

If you’re not sure, check out this article: She’s My Friend But I Think She’s Jealous Of My Success. You’ll find some tips in it that’ll help you.

If she’s jealous, and you haven’t been able to resolve it with her, then you’re probably feeling hurt and stressed. That’s okay; it’s natural to feel that way. How deeply the situation is affecting you depends on the nature of your friendship: the closer and deeper the friendship is, the worse it feels.

If you work with her there’s an extra layer of stress because if things get out of hand it can damage your career and hers, too.

But what can you do?

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Amelia's Story, Amelia's Story Chapter 2

Fraying Edges

Last Time …

Amelia’s meeting with Zoe didn’t go well. Zoe was unimpressed when Amelia told her she suspected that Christina had sabotaged the board presentation.

There were more surprises in store when Amelia got back to her office. A panicked Christina decided to get on the front foot and pointed the finger for the sabotage at Chantal. But Chantal was ahead of her; she’d already texted Amelia requesting an urgent offsite meeting.

By the time Richard called with news he’d been promoted, Amelia was exhausted and distracted. This conversation didn’t go well either. Richard misinterpreted her reaction as a lack of support.

It’s a few months later, so let’s see what’s happening …

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She’s My Friend But I Think She’s Jealous of My Success

You thought she was your friend. You didn’t have to explain yourself to her because she ‘got’ you. You were ‘there’ for her when she needed you, and she’s been ‘there’ for you: you shared your troubles and cheered each other on.

Now, however, after you’ve finally had the breakthrough you’ve been working towards, your friendship seems to have changed. You thought she’d be happy for you, but you sense she isn’t. While it’s hard to explain how you know this, you’ve begun to notice changes in her – the little things she does or doesn’t do.

What happened? Why has she backed away?

Surely she can’t be jealous … can she?

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A Tangled Web

Last Time …

It was the day of Amelia’s presentation to the Board. She had recovered from the attempted sabotage and things had gone smoothly. Zoe and the Board were impressed.

Meanwhile, Richard was waiting nervously in the boardroom at Madigan MacDougall and Gould. He had been summoned to a confidential meeting by the founding partner, Brady Madigan.

When Amelia returned to the office, her cheerful demeanour confused Christina and Chantal, and they became more troubled when Amelia unexpectedly called a team meeting for later that day.

Little did they know, Amelia was on her way to speak to Zoe about the sabotage. Let’s find out what Zoe had to say.

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Self-Confidence: Does Yours Go Missing In Action?

Have you had an experience where your self-confidence suddenly deserted you?

What happened? How did you feel afterwards?

In response to a prior blog post, I’ve had several requests to write a more general article about self-confidence, so here it is. It’s for anyone who’s experienced a sudden loss of confidence, regardless of the cause.

I hope it helps you. If you know someone else it would help, please share it with them.

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Are Her Acid Drops Eating Your Confidence?

Do you walk away from seemingly innocent encounters with a female colleague feeling unexpectedly deflated?

Has your level of self-doubt increased since experiencing this?

Then you could be experiencing ‘Acid Drops‘.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, an Acid Drop is a boiled sweet that originated in the UK, and has a very sour aftertaste. Bitch In The City Acid Drops are the verbal equivalent of the same thing. Whilst similar to other BITC behaviours, such as the Hug Slap and the Cold Shoulder, the hallmark of the Acid Drop is subtlety. You may not realise what happened at the time, or even afterwards.

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Amelia's Story, Amelia's Story Chapter 2

Traitor Beware

Last Time …

It was Friday night and Amelia was working late checking her board presentation. She forgot the time and left Richard waiting at their favourite Italian restaurant, La Dolce Vita. When Amelia finally arrived she found an angry Richard walking out.

In the meantime, the bubbly was flowing as Christina, Chantal, Keesha and the rest of the team were partying at Choo Choo’s. They toasted Amelia for working late while they were having fun.

During a tense ride home Amelia tried to explain to Richard why she had been so late. His anger subsided when she told him she had found a serious error in her presentation, and suspected that it was deliberate. Was someone in Amelia’s team a saboteur?

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Is She Giving You The Hug Slap?

Are you feeling confused about where you stand with a female colleague?

Then you could be experiencing ‘The Hug Slap’.

‘The Hug Slap’ is all about inconsistency: sometimes you’re ‘in’ (Hug) and sometimes you’re ‘out’ (Slap) but you’ve no clue why or when it may change. This behaviour is a close cousin of ‘The Cold Shoulder’  discussed in one of my earlier posts. The difference is that ‘The Cold Shoulder’ is consistent: it’s a Slap, so you know you’re ‘out’ and BITC intends to keep you there.

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The Enemy Within

Last Time …

Amelia’s boss, Zoe, has been given a promotion. When Zoe and her boss, Declan, called Amelia and Christina into a meeting, Christina was sure she was about to get Zoe’s job. Christina did get a promotion, but not the one she was hoping for. Instead, it was Amelia who was promoted to Head of Marketing.

Now Amelia is Christina’s boss.

Christina was seething, but she kept her feelings hidden.

For Amelia, her promotion marks a new chapter in her career. She’s been in the role for a few months, so let’s see how things are going.

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